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| Steven Bereznai |
A friend recently handed me a copy of Steven’s book, “Gay and Single … Forever? 10 Things Every Gay Guy Looking for Love (and Not Finding It) Needs To Know.” I must admit that as a single man I was initially wary of reading another “self-help” book or magazine article on the right way to meet the right guy.
But my curiosity won out. It helped that Steven’s title has 10 things to know rather than do. It didn’t seem exhausting to read.
While reading I was fascinated by the honesty with which Steven wrote about his own journey, the research he did into the LGBT (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender) subculture and the historical component.
Finishing the book was the equivalent to exhaling after holding my breath for what seemed like years. I began to relax about being unattached today, tomorrow and possibly forever.
Here, as the first guest on THE WILL DEAN SHOW, Steven shares insights on how being gay and single is a good thing.
WDS: Has embracing the "gay and single" status as a good thing, as your book suggests, changed what you think about the battle for full marriage rights for gay men and lesbians?
SB: I've always been in favor of equal marriage rights because it raises our legal status overall. The down side unfortunately, which I cover in the book, is that the more accepting everyone is of gays and lesbians, the more they put the same pressure on us to follow the same path of life, and believe there's something wrong with those of us who are single, regardless of sexual orientation. That was one of the interesting things about talking to gays who were part of the so-called "golden age of promiscuity" in the 70s. Gays were still looking for partners, but no one ever asked "why" are you single? Coupledom wasn't expected, and that takes so much pressure off of us singles.
